1. What did I learn last week? – If you have trouble answering this question, it’s time for a change.  It doesn’t matter how old you are, you should learn something new every week.
2. What was my greatest accomplishment over the past week? – Reflecting on your accomplishments is a healthy way to raise self-confidence and contentment.  It’s also an effective way to track your progress.
3. Which moment from last week was the most memorable and why? – It may open up your mind to new passions and goals, or simple pastimes worth revisiting.
4. What’s the #1 thing I need to accomplish this week? – Everything else is secondary, and should be treated as such.  Nevertheless, this question will also shine light on other noteworthy tasks.
5. What can I do right now to make the week less stressful? – Set reminders in your calendar, get your laundry done, fill the car with gas… organize yourself.
6. What have I struggled with in the past that might also affect the upcoming week? – The idea here is to learn from your struggles and better equip yourself for future encounters.
7. What was last week’s biggest time sink? – Steer clear of this in the future.  Setup physical barriers against distractions if you have to.
8. Am I carrying any excess baggage into the week that can be dropped? – Physical clutter, mental clutter… eliminates the unnecessary so the necessary may shine bright.
9. What have I been avoiding that needs to get done? – Pencil in a time to get things done first thing Monday morning.
10. What opportunities are still on the table? – If it’s still available and you want it, make a concrete plan to go after it this week.
11. Is there anyone I’ve been meaning to talk to? – Regular communication can solve problems before they fester.  Always keep an open line of communication to those around you.
12. Is there anyone that deserves a big ‘Thank You’? – Take time each week to thank the people who have helped you.  Your kind gesture will not go unnoticed.
13. How can I help someone else this coming week? – The easiest way to get what you want is to help others get what they want.  If you help them, they will remember you when you need help.
14. Have any of my recent actions moved me closer to my goals? – If the answer is no, something needs to change.
15. What’s the next step for each goal? – Knowing the next step is the key to accomplishing the whole.
16. What am I looking forward to during the upcoming week? – The answer can act as a great source of motivation.  If nothing exists, book something in.
17. What are my fears? – Consciously address your fears each week and slowly work on resolving them.  It’s all about taking baby steps.
18. What am I most grateful for? – It’s a smart way to keep things in perspective,  something not to lose sight of.

The Law of Detachment says that the way to acquire what you want is to let go of your attachment. By letting go, we are not letting go of our intention to manifest what we want, rather we are creating the space for it to come to us with effortless ease. By practicing the law of detachment, you sit in a place of trust and knowing your intention will come to fruition in divine time.

This does not mean you do not take action in accordance with your goal. It means to be accountable, do what you can and release it. By focusing on too much, it can create the opposite effect and can slow down the goal coming to fruition. This can sometimes mean you need to move yourself to the side and out of way in order for it to manifest.

How Do We Apply It?

Start with moving through your day with detached sense of being. Simple example is  when problem or a challenge arises at work or at home, try not to get caught up in reaction. Detach from a situation -knowing a solution will present itself. It may not be immediately however a solution will appear soon.

If you stand firm in your detachment, you won’t feel that you have to force or push toward a solution, it will happen on it’s own time. You in turn can stay open to possibilities with the trust that all is in perfect order.

1. Practice detached interactions.

2. Accept things don’t always go as planned.

3. Be open to solutions instead of wallowing in the problem.

4. Trust the process that sometimes by moving yourself out of the way the solution will always present itself.

The great thing about the Law of Detachment is that it works well with the Law of Attraction. In order for you to attract what you want, you must be detached to the outcome.

When you are attached, you vibrate fear, doubt and need. You are attracting more fear, doubt and need, since we know the Law of Attraction says, “like attracts like.” You are approaching your desire from a position of worry.

What is worry?

It is planning to fail.

Your mind is creating all these failure scenarios. You think them over and over. It creates this negative downward spiral and that’s what you end up creating more of.  Where you mind, energy and spirit is focused you will bring about.

When you’re attached to an outcome you’re giving away your personal power. When you allow things outside yourself to bring you satisfaction or joy, you’re giving over control to something or someone else. You’re then powerless.

We can’t allow ourselves to be emotionally attached. By knowing without a doubt  a solution will appear – we feel empowered.

So, How Do I Apply This Law?

Have you heard the saying, “Let go and let God”? This is the absolute trust and faith that you have that God, the universe, the source provides all things. You are trusting that there is enough, that you deserve all great things coming to you.

Law of Detachment means that whatever you seek has no power over you, you are in control.

So many people think to get something that they must hang on for dear life….but the truth is, it’s the letting go, that brings it to you.

Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go.”

Remember FEAR stands for: Forgetting Everything Is Alright!

Have your focus be this week…..to hold your desired intention, visualize the intention, take action where you can and release it. Start to witness your results with seemingly effortless energy.

We are all energy.

No, energy isn’t something you can see but it’s something that you can feel. Most of us understand energy in terms of the natural environment. We understand the energy of the sea and the sun and the trees. Humans are no different. You can feel when your energy’s depleted, you can feel when it’s effervescent or high, the same as feeling when it’s a windy day or the sun is strong. Or when you go into a house and you feel the vibe that comes off the house. Or when you meet someone and they don’t even have to say anything, but the feeling that you get of what they emit from themselves is confronting or you don’t connect with.

One of the things that I do when I work with clients is getting them to be aware that all their belief systems, conscious and unconscious, sit in their energy field in their body. That is what goes in ahead of them to a job interview or on a date, or if they’ve got a business that’s the thing the clients feel when they walk into a shop. Who they are being in the world is stronger than the words that come out of their mouth. It is a feeling. It’s tangible in that way. But most of us are so disconnected or living in the intellectual part of our minds that we’re unaware the impact that our energy has on other people. So if you have car accidents or you find that people are rude to you in the street for no reason, or people slam doors in your face, it’s not that the other person is in a bad mood. Who are you being in order to attract that into your life? What is your energy saying to that person? What are you thinking about yourself in that moment and how is that then integrating with your energy in your body, around you, as you are putting that out into the world?

Energy is more powerful than words it’s almost like you’re a magnet. Like attracts like. If you have certain feelings and thoughts sitting in your body that you are projecting into the world, you’re going to attract that back. So not only do your thoughts create your reality I believe the energy you’re carrying or projecting into the world is creating life as you know it.

QUICK ENERGY LIFT!

Do you ever feel that life is just one long, routine day after another? You wake up, take a shower, have breakfast, brush your teeth, get dressed, go to work, come home, have a juice or dinner, then repeat it all again the next day! Well, if you can’t face another day of the same old stuff it’s probably time for a play break.

The idea of scheduling a spontaneity break probably sounds like a contradiction in terms, but when you consider how our society lives and thrives by the clock, it makes sense. Too often we fall into the trap of believing that life will become easier and more meaningful when we get really good at living and acting efficiently. But schedules, clocks and well-planned time can squash your creative spirit – the part of you that thrives on spontaneous, open-ended time.

We need periods in which to live spontaneously without commitments or distractions. By creating space to live in the moment, we strengthen the connection to our inner wisdom and give ourselves a much-needed rest from the routine of day- to-day living. If the daily routine is getting the better of you, it may be time for you to play.

Get your diary and schedule in a play date with yourself — now! Go on! Make time in your life for a spontaneous pamper break. Take an afternoon off from appointments, book the kids in with their grandparents for a sleepover and free yourself from obligations or take your partner out for a spontaneous lunch mid week!

During your play time, check in with you wise self and ask, ‘What do I really want to do right now?’ However goofy the response is, just do it and have fun doing it.

PLAY

So in the spirit of child’s play, here are some tips to help your inner little one come out to play. Pick one action and do it each week. You may be pleasantly surprised at how much joy this gives you.

• Close the curtains, put on your favorite music and dance in your living room.
• Get dirty. Go out and weed in the garden, plant a tree or simply dig holes (if you have ?kids, dig up worms for the garden compost).
• Spend time on a swing at your local park after work and eat an ice cream.
• Buy a hula hoop and see if you can still swing your hips.
• Get a semi-permanent tattoo.
• Paint your partner’s toenails bright pink.
• Have a serious conversation with your pet.
• Visit a toyshop and buy a coloring-in book. Take it work with you and spend 15 ?minutes each day coloring it in.
• Grab your kids or neighbor’s kids and take them to the local fair or carnival. While ?you’re there, get your face painted.
• Raid your children’s dress-up box and play with them. Seeing the world through ?children’s eyes is truly magical and inspiring.

The Life Tool box is a combination of tips and tools you should use throughout this process of transformation. They will you shift to the next phase and help you overcome challenges you may find along your journey of change as well as keep you motivated and accountable. Sometimes depending on what your gaols are you may utilise one or more of these tools, but you may wish to use more.

Use these as guidance for your life yet please don’t turn them into an added source of stress!  When you want to create something new in your lif i.e. health, career, wealth, relationship or any goal its important to have a FUN step-by-step easy to use plan you can check in on your progress. Throw in a few extra tools, your new reality awaits!

Journal writing

Make the commitment to write in your journal or notebook every day, not just on the day you do your tasks. It’s a great way to de-clutter your mind and soul before your day begins and your mind has a chance to take over. Give yourself the space to empty thoughts, feelings and words to clear your day for positive thoughts to come in.

Affirmations

Self-talk is powerful: thoughts create your reality. The more your focus on something, the more chance you have of manifesting your desire. Telling yourself positive thoughts each day reinforces the change you want to take place. Try it out and watch what happens!

Visualisation

The power of visualisation is important if you want gain a strong sense of your dreams and feel them coming to fruition. Spend time each day visualising your desires and imagine yourself in the scene.

Trust you. We all have a voice inside us that is our wise woman or wise man. They guide us, talk to us, heals us and protects us if we know how to listen to this part of ourselves. Start listening for your inner voice and listen to what she tells you. This voice is the voice of truth and higher guidance.

Letting go and trusting the process

This behaviour is crucial to in completing the program successfully. In order to create change you need to be able to let go off the past and trust the unknown. There is no magic crystal ball we can ask for advice except to trust in who you are and what feels right for you.

Setting and reviewing your goals and intentions

One of the most important tools in the toolbox. If you don’t know what you want, how do you know when you arrive there? Get clear on what you want and put an action plan in place to help you get there.

Meditation and connecting with your spirituality

Somewhere along the journey you will want to find a deeper part of you that has been lurking in the shadows. Finding your version of spirituality or meditation is your individual journey. There is no ‘right’ way to experience your spirituality except to trust what is right for you. Ideally you would meditate as often as possible, but start by making it a weekly practice.

Thought-changing exercises

A great tool to be used whenever you feel stuck in a particular thought pattern. Writing out negative beliefs and transforming them into positive, healthy and uplifting beliefs attract greater prosperity in all areas of life. Here is an example:

Step one:

Identify things you would like to change in any area of your life – money, family, relationships, health, hobbies, friends, career … Now write a list of statements about them. The idea is to write down your truth – what you really say to yourself and out aloud.?E.g. No matter what I do, it never seems to be good enough and neither do I.

Step two:

Take responsibility for having chosen beliefs with love for yourself. Look to see where they have served you. You can only let them go once you can see how they have worked in your life, so think about how they have worked for you and honor that but — now choose to change them. Now write the following statement at the end of the list:

I acknowledge that I chose these beliefs with love for myself. I am responsible for holding these beliefs.

Step three:

Choose now to let these beliefs go and choose new beliefs to support you creating your life as you want it to be.?I now choose to let these beliefs go and I choose the following new ones;?I believe…………..

Step five:

Be willing to write your new beliefs as if they were true. The greatest way to manifest what you want in life is to act like these beliefs have already happened, so write them down like you already believe in them.?E.g. believe I am okay the way I am and what I do is simply what I do. I believe I am lovable, loving and loved.

These will become your true beliefs: they are what you think and I recommend that you read them daily, also that whenever you are driving, washing up and so on, remind yourself of what you know to be true for you.

Script writing

A tool to be used as often as needed, to help you get clear on how your want your life to look, with you playing the starring role in your chosen goals. Write out the event/situation/goal as though it has already happened in the present tense. Remember that thoughts create your reality so take control of your life; otherwise life will take control of you.

Creating space for change

In order for change to come you must create the space for it to occur. If you want a new wardrobe, wouldn’t you clean out your closet \to make room for the new gear? Similar to clothes, your mind and soul need de-cluttering and detoxing so the new desires can come in. Clear out that old stuff that keeps you held to the past: this includes limiting beliefs and thoughts, routines, habits and situations that no longer serve you. You could shed kilograms’ worth of baggage and feel wonderful!

Use this The Life Toolbox as your accountability partner to keep on track with your goals!

It’s not uncommon to think that your physical space when you are wanting to create change in your life. Often your physical world can be a direct reflection for how you are feeling – and what need to change when the things in your life aren’t working. When you are looking at your physical world, bear in mind that it includes all the physical dimensions that make up who you are and how you live your life, from the space that you live in, what you do with that space, what you do with time and how you look after your body.

Working on the physical aspect on you body as well as your external environment also involves asking yourself, ‘Where am I currently cluttered? Is my body internally cluttered? Do I need to be looking at what I’m actually putting into my body? Is that helping it perform at an optimal level from the space that I work in? Where is it cluttered? Where am I energetically blocking all the new from coming in? How is my inability to manage time related to how I handle change in my life?’ You’re about to find out the answers to all these questions.

The importance of creating space

Looking at the physical space you live in, operate in, think in and exist in is absolutely crucial to your process of change. You will come to realize all the old stuff that you’ve got piled up, whether it’s in your closet, in your office, piles of paper, friendships, and disorganization. If your physical space is out of control and you also feel out of control in your life, it’s a brilliant example of how your external and internal worlds are connected. So if you want to create new you need to let go of old. And that means stripping away, saying goodbye, letting go of people who no longer serve you, getting rid of clothes, office stuff and garbage — old stuff that is not only physically cluttering up your space but energetically blocking the new you from coming in. The new will never come in while ever you’re hoarding.

I’m a stickler for creating space and having an organized space to work from and to live in. I need plenty of room to think, relax and create and breathe. It’s taken me years to train myself to eliminate clutter and excess from its source. It’s become a ritual: when in doubt, throw it out. Learning to eliminate clutter at its source — finding out what’s driving your hoarding or cluttering behavior — is vital for keeping a clear mind and soul.

Creating space always makes you feel better physically and emotionally. Once you have eliminated the things that have been draining your energy you can actually feel the energy move back into your body.

A simple exercise

Look around the room you’re in. Is this an area where you are sitting that needs your attention? An overflowing wastebasket, perhaps? Old clothes? Piles of papers?

If you are like most people, you’ve probably been meaning to get to that clutter for a while – and the combination of negative self-talk (‘I don’t have enough time to clean up’ or ‘It’s too hard to clear out this clutter’) and visual mess drains your energy.

Your de-cluttering task

The objective of this exercise is to help you create a plan to de-clutter your space.?This de-cluttering means not only looking at your physical space but also your emotional, energetic and mental space – your thoughts.?Choose a thirty-day period and commit to writing a minimum of three pages every morning by hand. Hold this as sacred and see it as an opportunity to connect with your inner wisdom or your wise self.

Don’t worry about what to say or punctuation, spelling, being smart and creative or whether or not you can fill the page. Find a safe place to keep your journal where no one will find it and simply write. When you feel you have nothing to say just keep writing anyway – you may be surprised at what comes up!

You should also look at how much stuff you keep in your life. Work through the following questions.

How much clutter surrounds you? List five areas in which you have clutter.

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Do you work best amongst piles of paper? Y/N?Do you live best amongst a dirty house? Y/N?Are you afraid you may need that ten-year-old shirt one day? Y/N

What are your reasons for living amongst all this stuff?

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Lastly: a de-cluttering does not just have to be of tangible, physical things. It is best if you look at as the mind, body, emotion, energy and spirit level. So what one thing can you do on each level to de-clutter? You may wish to de-clutter your friends – as extreme as these sounds, sometimes we find we have collected a lot of ‘friends’ who actually aren’t friends. You should only have friendships with people who truly care about you, not just people who want to socialize with you. How much time are you spending on friendships that aren’t really friendships?

Your affirmation for creating space

Creating space allows me to feel clear and focused.

Think of yourself as a giant magnet. Whatever you are feeling — whether it’s love, fear, anger, happiness, anger, joy, gratitude, and resistance — you are, in essence, creating a magnetic force that attracts and draws to you events, conditions and circumstances which are in direct correlation to what you are feeling. Fear of something creates a magnetic force that will attract more of what you fear. Expressing gratitude for something projects a magnetic force that attracts more of what you’re grateful for.

At any time that you are not expressing gratitude for an outcome, you are basically resisting the outcome — thus your focus is on not wanting that outcome. That means your thoughts and emotions are fixated on not wanting the outcome. That focus of not wanting only serves to draw to you more of what you’re not wanting — more of what you’re resisting.

The power of you

Since your current outcomes are based on what you have thought and felt at some point in the past, and those outcomes are now being experienced in your life, guess who created them? You did! And although that may not make you feel any better about them just yet, consider this: since it is you who is responsible for attracting and creating ‘undesirable outcomes’, it is also you who can change the thoughts and emotions responsible for creating those outcomes. You can create results you desire.

The miracle of creation

It’s important to recognize and express gratitude for the fact that everything in your life is a miracle that you have created. Creation, regardless of how you might perceive it, is always a miracle. If you can learn to express gratitude for every miracle in your life, you will begin to see the life-changing power that gratitude holds in creating much more to be grateful for.

A state of gratitude

When you have developed a crystal-clear understanding that all things work for the greater good no matter how seemingly bad things may appear, it becomes much easier to stay in a state of gratitude.

When you are able to fully develop that awareness (and with a little practice, you will), not only is it an extremely freeing experience, but you are setting yourself up for a much greater flow of abundance and happiness coming into every area of your life. When the Universe sees that you are grateful for what you have, it will send you more.

This is exactly how Universal Laws operate. The universe doesn’t perceive anything as good or bad, it only sends outcomes to you based on your energy vibration, and your attitude concerning any given thing is exactly what determines that vibrational resonance. God, Universal Consciousness or whatever you perceive it to be, loves each person unconditionally exactly the same and only delivers to each precisely what we are asking for, based on our individually chosen vibrational output. If your output is anger, fear, doubt or worry, the universe perceives that you are asking for outcomes based on that output, and that is exactly what you’ll receive.

You can’t possibly control everything that is going on around you in the world but you can most certainly control yourself and how you perceive what’s going on.

The gratitude game

I invite you to play a game – let’s call it the ‘gratitude game’. The aim is to find creative and inexpensive ways to thank those people who often get overlooked. For example, you might acknowledge or appreciate those people that provide you with a service each day: the garage attendant, local grocery man, your mum or dad for helping you out, or a special friend who always supports you. Get creative this week with your acknowledgements and notice the feeling you receive when you appreciate someone in your life who has helped you.

An attitude of gratitude

Developing an attitude of gratitude is one of the most important things that you can do for attracting and manifesting the things that you desire into your life. In fact, if you have a desire to consistently attract desired outcomes, it’s essential that you cultivate this attitude. The following method is equally as effective and actually accomplishes the same end result as that contained in the first task.

Make a commitment to do the following for the next thirty days:?Take out a piece of paper and each night make a handwritten list of the things you can think of that you are grateful for. Think deeply about each area of your life and begin to write in detail the good things that come to your mind as you write. Do it everyday.

Practicing gratitude

Gratitude plays an extremely important role in beginning to consciously and intentionally create desired outcomes in your life. It’s my hope that you’ll think about this and choose gratitude as an attitude for yourself. It will make all the difference.

Then make a list of all the people you would like to thank and send a note or pick up the phone to.

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In my many years working as coach I have lost count of the hours I have spent philosophizing about what happiness is.

When I have asked clients about what happiness is for them they have explained to me that it feels as though something is missing from their lives. Usually it’s very difficult for them to pinpoint exactly what that is.

I would like to take it one step further and actually break down the definition of happiness and how that looks for you in your life. How does it feel? How does it smell? How does it make your heart sing? The work you will do in this chapter means knowing that you want to create an element of happiness and defining your own version of happiness – working out which elements need to come together in order for you to say ‘I’m really content and happy.’

My big thing is that you know what defines you, because what defines you and what makes you happy is completely different to what makes your best mate happy. It’s completely different to your neighbor, to the guy down the street running the fruit shop.

Why aren’t you happy?

We often kid ourselves that happiness is around the corner, never here in the present. ‘If I could just find a better house then I would happier!’ we may say, or ‘If I could find a better job then I’m sure I would be happier!’ or ‘ If the kids were less demanding then I would have more time to myself and then I would be happy and content!’ or ‘If my husband was less moody then the whole house would be happier!’ — or my favorite, ‘If I could just find a great partner then it would solve all my problems and I would be happy!’ Then the ideal partner or job or house comes along and brings its own problems and challenges — so we question our happiness all over again.

I believe there is intense pressure in today’s adrenaline-fuelled society — we all get those messages telling us how to live our lives, what to wear, what to say, what not to say, what not to wear, the type of house we should have, the suburb we must live in, the brand of car we must drive. The message is all the same: ‘If you’re not happy with it, get rid of it! Don’t worry about the consequences, live for today! I believe that this mode of existence contributes towards anxiety, depression, weight issues and other illnesses as it puts so much stress on ourselves, to achieve, achieve, achieve! Long-lasting change does not happen this way; happiness cannot be found if we seek to find it in external objects.

We just keep raising the benchmark, replacing our achievements with bigger and better goals, not wanting to face the void or whatever it is that pushes us to keep doing, keep pushing, keep achieving to overload and, ultimately, unhappiness. When we spend time seeking happiness from the outside world rather than from looking within, we rarely discover authentic, deep happiness.

Your version of happiness

If you feel dissatisfied with your life, or feel as though something is missing, you may want to consider this: it might just be that what’s been missing from your life is you.

Many people have the best intentions at the beginning of a new year to do things differently and achieve more. Yet how many excuses did you use last year that prevented you from achieving those goals and desires? You don’t have to become a better person or develop a different attitude to have a life you love and find happiness. As you are, you are good enough.

As you embark on the following tasks, I’d like you to remember that you’re trying to identify your version of happiness. Don’t think about anyone else during this process. Just you.

Your first task: things that make you feel happy

Create a daily or weekly checklist of all the things you want to do yet felt you don’t have time to do. Then make sure you do at least one thing on this list each week, until you reach the end of the list.

Don’t censor this list. You may want to play a game a squash each week; have a regular catch-up with a girlfriend over a cuppa; sit in the sun and read a book, or treat yourself to a soothing aromatherapy massage. Or maybe you want to meditate each morning before you start your day, or have a soak in the bath with lots of bubbles and a glass of wine, listening to your favourite music, instead of watching television every night. All of these things are valid — just don’t take life (or this list) too seriously. To have a sense of fun and adventure in your life is just as important as working.

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Enjoy your version of happiness today and everyday! Your health depends on it!

Victoria 

The Waterfall Concept refers to the fact that people who are happy – people who love their lives – are in the flow. It’s impossible to tell you how the flow feels if you have not felt it. Once you have felt it though – once you have lived it – you will know exactly what I’m talking about.

I want to give you a tip on how you can recognise when you are living a life you love, because there won’t be any big banners in the sky or a special noise telling you that you have arrived at that life. There will, however, be what I call ‘the Waterfall Concept’.

This flow happens when we’re living in the present moment and unattached to life circumstances and how our prayers are to be answered. The secret is realising and viewing our universe as all loving and supportive; that opens doors within ourselves to receive the exact support we require in that moment. If we are not attached to the outcome, it allows us to receive the highest flow possible through spirit. Then things happen that we would have never imagined or ever thought possible.

Synchronicities are obvious indicators that we are living in the flow. We experience ourselves living a magical existence where everything we need just appears and the next step is obvious.

The key to being in the flow is how much we love, trust, have faith, meditate and allow ourselves to enjoy the life we have. Gratitude has a whole different energy to it than despair. Giving, caring, hoping, expecting, celebrating, and being passionate about something are energy generators. So are fear, anger, sadness, blame, and feeling like a victim. The difference in these energy generators is in what they are generating. Think and you shall create it. You will become what you think. Think and you will become it.

What we think and what we feel generate the energy that creates our future. If we are thinking positive thoughts and feeling good about our lives, and ourselves we are creating an energy force field that attracts good things to us. Depression, anger and despair also create a force field that attracts things to us. What most of us don’t realise is that we have a choice about the way we think and feel, and this also determines what we attract. When we put out a positive energy force field we attract one back.

So to create a magical life we need to become generators of positive energies. This may mean you have to start by accepting that things ‘are the way they are’ and that ‘we/they did the best we/they could at the time’. We can’t change the past, but we can change our attitude about it and shift our position about it.

A higher variational energy than acceptance is forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that we have forgotten the things that caused us pain, but it means that we are ready to put them behind us and look towards the future instead of living one moment longer in the pain of the past. Carrying the pain of the past and negative feelings towards those who were involved when those feelings began is a sure way to stay stuck in the past and miss the flow that is just waiting to take us into a better future.

Living in the flow does not happen automatically. You have just done a whole lot of work to make yourself ready for it, and once you’re in it, you need to maintain it. On the days when you are lacking courage to live the life you love, don’t judge yourself or despair. Remember that a wonderful life doesn’t happen automatically –you will be working at this for the rest of your days. And there is no more important work for you to do than creating a life you love.

Signs you are in the flow:
• Life operates with more ease.
• You feel more balanced and centred.
• Stress doesn’t seem to affect you as greatly.
• You trust yourself more.
• When is external chaos is present you seem to glide through the situation.
• You have greater energy and vitality.
• You feel lighter and more vibrant.
• You have a glow in your face.
• You have better relationships.
• You achieve more effortlessly.
• Time management runs smoothly.
• You manifest your desires.
• You attract positive opportunities and situations

Signs you are not in the flow:
• Life appears more challenging.
• You feel stressed inwardly and outwardly.
• Daily life is irritating you.
• You don’t trust yourself.
• There appears to be more chaos in your life.
• Life does not flow.
• Everyday feels a struggle.
• You feel tired and lethargic.
• You may feel depressed and anxious.
• Your relationships appear more hard work.
• You don’t manifest joy and happiness in your daily life.
• You attract negative people and situations.

Being in the flow takes 5 steps:
1. Stop, observe and enquire what’s preventing the flow
a) Am I thinking negative thoughts?
b) Am I feeling depleted in my energy?
c) Am I letting fear lead the way?
d) Am I listening to my inner critic instead of my intuition?

2. Check in with your true self for guidance.

3. Take action that you trust is being called for.

4. Having faith, excitement and anticipation about what that action is leading you to.

5. Be grateful for the gifts it brings and all the gifts you have in your life right now.

Embrace your life!

When was the last time you stopped to consider where your time is being spent and how you feel about it? How many hours do you really work? How much time do you spend caring for others? How much of your time is spent caring for you? By the end of this chapter you will have a clearer understanding of how time is impacting on your life and sabotaging your success. Keeping an orderly ‘house’ encourages and promotes a clear mind and soul so you can manifest your dreams.

Your relationship with time
You are the most valuable person you will ever know. How effectively do you nourish and value the time you spend with yourself and what you do with that time?

Are you one of these people who are always late or are you always on time? Do you have the best intention of wanting more time but then just fill up any available space with extra clutter and activities and end up more exhausted? Do you get annoyed at others when they are late? Could it be that you don’t have a healthy relationship with time and those people around you are a mirror of this?

Using time as an excuse
So many people use time as an excuse and show us that in their world they have limitation around it. For example, ‘I can’t make it, I am so busy, I don’t have time’ is so often used by all of us as an excuse. How often do you use these words as your excuse, when in actual fact it is not the truth? Maybe you only use them on a rare occasion, but often these words really mean ‘I do not want to make it as it doesn’t interest me’ or ‘I have created too much work and have no idea how to prioritise this’. Notice what you say as your excuse and start saying what is really going on for you rather than using lack of time as your excuse.

We all have the same number of hours in a day — it’s up to you how you use them. And we all have different responsibilities: holidays, change of job, illness, relationships or lifestyle can all make an impact on how much time we have available. And, again, it’s up to you what you do about that.

10 TIPS TO CREATE MORE TIME!
Most of us, if given the chance, would like more time in our lives. Of course, there are never going to be more than twenty-four hours in a day, but you can create more space within the time you already have, if you know how to do so. Following are some simple steps to help you create more time.

Time out! Ask yourself if it is okay to have space and time in your day. If not, why not? Schedule time out in your diary and give yourself permission to reconnect with and refresh yourself.

Structure! Structure your week and block our regular activities e.g. gym time/ admin/ meetings/ paying bills etc in your diary on specific days and times, as this helps to focus your energy and thoughts instead of spreading out these activities over several days.

Thoughts! Thoughts have power over your day so what are you choosing to create? What are your thoughts about time? Do you love time or resent time? Do you think you have loads of time or a lack of time? How much control does time have over you?

Affirm! Repeat positive mantras such as ‘I have more than enough time’ or ‘My day flows effortlessly’.

Change! What can you do differently to create more space and make time work for you? Do you use time as an excuse? Do you cancel appointments and reschedule meetings?

Ask yourself: Do I have better things to do with my time? Don’t reconcile your bank statements if you don’t have to. Don’t save newspapers because you’re ‘planning to go through them’. Don’t tell yourself you’ll renovate that cupboard when you clearly won’t ever make the time. Clear out old clothes that no longer fit. Say goodbye to friends or situations that don’t support your new life.

Focus! Don’t spread yourself thin. Having too much on the go means you’re setting yourself up to fail. Focus on one thing at a time. Flitting from one thing to the next means you are unlikely to do a job properly, or ever complete anything. Gather everything you need to perform a task from start to finish in the one place.

Finish! Aim to finish tasks. Decide what you need to do, and then set about doing it to completion. If it’s an ongoing task, set yourself a goal date to finish. Learn to let go of things you have not finished in years!

K.I.S.S. Making things complicated or creating something that’s complex does not serve your best interests. Follow the K.I.S.S rule: ‘Keep it Simple Stupid’. Most of us are completely unaware that we live the same story day after day. We are so caught up in our story that we are blissfully ignorant to that we had a hand in creating it.

Just do it! Get your diary out now and start to block out time in your day to action high priority tasks and low priority tasks. Do a to do list the night before so you know what your focus is for the next day, then tick off as you complete those tasks.

SUPERCOACH HOMEWORK

1. What action am I going to DO to get more organised with time?

2. What affirmations am I going to FOCUS on this week to step more into my magnificence?

3. What ACTIONS will I take towards achieving my goals?

A vision board is typically a poster board on which you paste or collage images that you’ve torn out from various magazines. It’s simple and FUN!

The idea behind this is that when you surround yourself with images of who you want to become, what you want to have, where you want to live, or where you want to vacation, your life changes to match those images and those desires.

There are several methods you can use for creating your vision board. I’ve written about each one below. You can choose which one works best for you, depending on where you find yourself on this path of creating your life.

Your success ultimately lies in being clear on what it is you do WANT! Secondly, taking consistent ACTION for what you do WANT; and thirdly, allowing it to unfold.

Supplies you’ll need for creating a vision board:
- Cardboard or poster board. (Target sells a really nice matte finish board. I highly recommend it.)
- A big stack of different magazines. Make sure you find lots of different types. If you limit your options, you’ll lose interest after a while. When I facilitate my retreats, I always make sure we have plenty of Oprah, Real Simple, Natural Home, Yoga Journal, Dwell, Ode, Parenting, Food magazines, Money and Wealth creation magazines, and an assortment of nature magazines.
- Oh and glue!

Before you begin your vision board:
No matter which method you’re choosing, have a little ritual before you begin your vision board. Sit quietly and set the intention of your life. With lots of kindness and openness, ask yourself what it is you want in your life? Maybe images will come into your head. Just take a moment to be with that. If you sit quietly beforehand this process makes it a deeper experience.

It gives a chance for your ego to step aside just a little, so that you can more clearly create your vision. Don’t rush. Take your time. You can even create this vision board over a few days or weekends, as you get clearer on what it is you want to manifest into your life.

5 Steps of creating a vision board:
Step 1: Go through your magazines and tear the images from them. No gluing yet! Just let yourself have lots of fun looking through magazines and pulling out pictures or words or headlines that strike your fancy. Have fun with it. Make a big pile of images and phrases and words.

Step 2: Go through the images and begin to lay your favorites on the board. Eliminate any images that no longer feel right. This step is where your intuition comes in. As you lay the pictures on the board, you’ll get a sense how the board should be laid out. For instance, you might assign a theme to each corner of the board. Health, Job, Spirituality, Relationships, Wealth, Home, for instance. Or it may just be that the images want to go all over the place. Or you might want to fold the board into a book that tells a story. At my retreats, I’ve seen people come up with wildly creative ways to present a vision board.

Step 3: Glue everything onto the board. Add writing if you want. You can paint on it, or write words with markers.

Step 4: (optional, but powerful) Leave space in the very center of the vision board for a fantastic photo of yourself where you look radiant and happy. Paste yourself in the center of your board.

Step 5: Hang your vision board in a place where you will see it often.

AFFIRM:
“WITH CONSISTENT ACTION I EFFORTLESSLY ATTRACT ALL THAT I WANT INTO MY LIFE!”

SUPERCOACH ACTION STEPS THIS WEEK:
1. Make your vision board and hang it up
2. What were my highlight’s from last week?
3. What challenges did I have and how did I overcome them?
4. What is going to be my focus for this week?
5. What one action I can take that will help me get closer to my goals?